Learning centers range from academic tutoring to interest-driven classes and are packed with children throughout the day. How can parents choose the right subjects and centers?
I have seen children as young as 4 years old to as old as 15 years old travelling from one interest class to another. Classes start at 9 am and go to 5 pm every Saturday and Sunday. This schedule can easily last a few years, going to piano or violin, singing, drawing and language classes.
Most parents do not know if the right choice was made until the child tells them after years of lessons, practices and exams that they do not want to go anymore, and they never enjoyed the learning process. It is more obvious when the child shows signs of losing interest in learning and trying new things or starts having behavior issues and an increase in stress.
Some parents continue to believe it is a phase the child is going through, and the child will be grateful when they are accepted to the top universities and have a high paying job. After all, a parent knows what is best for their child, or at least that is what we tell ourselves.
As a parenting and teen coach, I have come across far too many families who felt lost and helpless when their children turn from angels to devils entering adolescence. They turn from sharing everything with us to distancing themselves. Not only do we, as parents, feel hurt, but more importantly, we feel at a loss.
How well do parents know their children?
We know what our children like to eat, the movies they watch, their friends and how they react when told to put their phones away. That is not what I am talking about. Parents should know the reasons why. Know the reasons why your child prefers reading over math or is the class clown.
It takes more than knowing what your children like but discovering the reasons why they like it and developing it to its full potential. A parent’s mission is more than just providing our children with necessity, but helping them identify and develop their true potential so they can achieve whatever they want.
Parents must become strength-based parents to help their children. The strength-based parenting approach focuses on setting children up for success by developing their character strengths.
Over the next few months, I will focus on how to utilize this parenting approach in different ways. We will explore what character strengths are,why they are important and how to fully develop them.
I will also run a series of parenting workshops focusing on strength-based parenting in the coming months.
Interested in Positive Parenting? Contact Sandy Sinn by WeChat at Sandyparentcoach.